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Double Your Time - No Magic Required!

Hold back timeIs there anyone who doesn't wish they had more time? Whether it's showing houses, networking to build your business, nurturing your children, or even (what a concept!) finding time for your own relaxation, there never seems to be enough to go around. We all get the same ration – 24 hours a day.

Adding TimeBut what if you could take some of those hours and double them by accomplishing twice as much? It is possible, you know. You don't need a magic wand or a time machine. All you need is the discipline to delegate. I'm not saying that it's easy – none of us likes to think that someone else can do a task as well as we can. But that's the point; a task doesn't always need to be completed our way, it simply needs to be completed effectively.

One of the best things about delegating is it frees your time to do what you do best and enjoy most. When you delegate tasks you don't enjoy someone else you can grow and develop the skills you need to accomplish your own goals faster. (Like, for instance, attending the Jumpstart Workshop!)

Start creating time for yourself by following the four steps of delegation:

Organize yourself first. Whatever task you are thinking of handing off, you need to see the whole picture in order to make delegation decisions. Think through the process, learn and use your systems, decide what you want to delegate.

DelegatingTrain your delegate(s).  These days it's common to delegate to someone hundreds of miles away, so clear communication is essential. Take the time to explain the goal of the task, not just how to do the work. Based on the skill and experience level of the individual, allow time to give clear direction and answer questions. Helping people to be the best they can be is the highest and most productive level of delegation. 

Looking over shoulderEntrust your delegate with the assignment.  Resist the temptation to peek over their shoulder. Once you've explained the result you expect, give the person some room to do the work their own way. Remember that you're looking for the right result, not an exact copy of your own way of doing things. Answer questions but don't hover.

Climbing over timeFollow up and evaluate.  Mark your calendar to follow-up when the work is due. Praise a job well done and give useful feedback if improvement is needed. Did you get the result you wanted? Was it in the form you asked for and on time? If not, try to identify where the project got off track and what needs to be changed the next time.

Done right, delegating can double your time. What would you do if you had more hours in your day?

 

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

1 commentCoach Patti Kouri • October 29 2008 02:02PM

Contest Winners Today...And a Dynamic Download!

 

Joeann Fossland

Justin ZimmermanI'd like to keep you updated on the very cool things Justin Zimmerman is doing at GoodMorningRealEstate. Here is a post from my dear friend and colleague, Joeann Fossland. I'm reblogging much of it with her permission.

Today, Justin will be announcing the FIVE winners in his story contest that ended last night. Each will win a 365-day pass to his web video site, worth at least $2,500! He rounded up a pedigreed 30+ coaches (yes, I'm one of the coaches!), top agents and NAR speakers who every week will virtually share their blueprints with you on "going big" in this new market. The new site goes live Wednesday.

 

As a testament to your upcoming success with him, here's a call to download that features two masters of positivity and performance!

You'll be surprised how simple the answers are! "*They Lay Down The Law like Wyatt Earp,"says Justin of NAR speakers and coaches Patti Kouri and Joeann Fossland.  {{{BLUSH}}}

 

FROM JUSTIN: "So the BIG question Wednesday night was...


"How do I overcome fear, stay focused, and makeit rain transactions"

You'd presume they did a "ok" job at this...

Actually they ripped apart FEAR and ANXIETY and replaced them with ACTIONS, SOLUTIONS,
and DIRECTIONS.

In an all too short 68 minute LIVE broadcast we"Felt The Fiber of the Fabric" of what you can
do right NOW to drop the "Stinking Thinking" and get your bank account "Cha-Chinging"!

On the LIVE call you would have learned...

1) How Market Stats beyond a reasonable doubtprove to buyers and sellers now is the time to
take action and disproves UGLY media headlines.

2) Like an ATM, working expired listings leadsputs you back in control of the market, and the
old formula; calls x appointments x closing = $ still holds true.

3) What is Web 2.0 (blogging/social media) and how do I start? Can I hire someone to do it?
Will it work? Why do I want to even get started?

4) Why every agent if they are serious, NEEDS to sit DOWN before the end of the year and write out
AT LEAST a mini-business/marketing plan*.

5) and much much more...

One last thing,

Before jumping over to my blog to download the call, at minute -31:57- Joeann makes a GREAT analogy that you'll be quoting to clients, friends, and family for years to come.

"Real estate is like the weather, there's is no national temperature, it's local"

*THE DOWNLOAD LINK*

Enjoy,
Justin

PS: As a bonus to being on the live call, Patti and Joeann being as generous as they are, gave away
some real cool stuff to keep your head in the game!

Now I don't want you to make it a habit of missing live calls, thinking I'm always going to be able to get
you "ALL THE LOOT" and post it on my blog...

But for right NOW on my blog you'll be able to ALSO download Patti Kouri's famous "Time Structure Sheet" to put your finger in and STOP wasteful time leaks to stay focused and committed."

 

For everyone looking to build their referrals business, you'll find tips in this download, too.

And, I thank Justin for having Joeann and me on the call. We are intentional about seeing agents THRIVE!!!

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

 

1 commentCoach Patti Kouri • October 27 2008 09:47AM

Taming the Wild Telephone

Woman juggling family businessToo Many PhonesAre you ruled by the telephone? Does that small packet of electronics hanging on your belt demand your attention – and do you give it – constantly? If so, you could be under the control of a wild telephone. Time to tame it!

You might consider the phone a drain on your time and your single greatest source of disruption. However, the phone can be your ally if you will follow a few simple guidelines.

Take Control Through Preparation. Whenever possible, do the majority of your phone work in advance, making more outgoing calls on your time frame and taking fewer incoming calls. Prepare each outgoing call or appointment by having all the necessary material at hand and writing down in advance any key questions or area to be covered as well as a projected time limit for each call. Prioritize and consolidate all callbacks.

Planning the time you call can be critical in preventing phone tag. Calls between 9am – 11am are the busiest times of the business day. Before 9am or after 5pm are good times to reach people, always taking into consideration what might be best for the person you are calling. 

Woman on PhoneKeep a Positive Phone Attitude. If it's appropriate to the conversation, try smiling as you talk. The person on the other end can't see you, of course, but the smile comes through in your voice. A positive attitude is essential to building rapport and good working relationships.

What You Say Goes A Long Way. There is nothing like the power of praise when you’re trying to accomplish your goals by phone. Acknowledge good phone behavior by those who assist you, be they assistants, contacts, prospects or clients. Make a point of thanking anyone who has gone out of their way to take down a long message or connect you with someone who is difficult to reach.

Use Concise Communication. Be specific. Get and give just the facts. Nothing will speed up a call faster than getting to the point sooner. Set time limits up front: "I’ve got five minutes to talk." Outline your call: "I’d like to discuss these two questions." Even your voice mail or answering machine message should be as concise as possible. “Thank you for calling the Accelerated Performance Coaching Company. Please leave your name, number and the best time to return your call.”

Man taking notesWoman taking notesTake Notes And Take Action. Don’t rely on a good memory. Always date your notes, list the party and any main points to be covered, and write down your comments. Right after the call, highlight any key points and take any necessary follow-up action, like transferring the information to your calendar, computer, or To Do List.

Train Your Telephone Team. If you are fortunate enough to have someone else in your office handling your calls, you have the opportunity to boost your effectiveness if your provide training on how to screen and prioritize call, take messages, and use all effective phone techniques.

No phones iconWithout our office and cell phones, we'd be hard pressed to run a successful real estate business. The trick is not lose sight of the fact that it is a tool. Just as the phone's battery needs recharging in order to keep operating, so do you. Phones can and should be turned off (not just silenced) when it's time for family and relaxation.

Any questions?  Call me!

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

 

5 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 23 2008 10:46AM

Need More? Start by Having More!

Empty gas gauge"Almost out" is not a happy place to be: almost out of time, almost out of gas, almost out of money. Suddenly, you can't think of anything else. You're in a meeting with a client but your mind is fretting about what you’ll do if your car can't make it to your next appointment. Now where was that gas station?

Empty thoughtsYour attention is compromised because you're focused on what’s missing instead of what you’re doing right now. Guess what? You can fix this problem. The solution is to create a reserve—extra time, extra money—so that there's always a little cushion between you and out.

It may seem like the only time to start working on this solution is when you have more than enough, but the reality is that when we have enough, we don't think about some future time when we won’t have enough. The time to create reserve is now, wherever you are in your cycle of abundance.

Wind up womanThe first step is to assess and prioritize your needs. What's missing in your life can gobble up so much energy that it's hard to tell what the problem is. If I had more time, I’d be able to exercise and my arthritis wouldn’t bother me so much, so I'd stop avoiding hillside properties and I’d have more clients and more money, etc., etc., etc.

Take a moment to do a little inventory and prioritize the list. Put a number next to each general area below, making the most urgent number 1, the next-most number 2, and so on:

___ How's your health? Are you sleeping? Eating regular meals? Exercising?

___ How’s your emotional outlook? Are you stressed? Are you spending time with people you care about? Are you cheerful and upbeat?

Adding Machine ___ How's your spiritual life? Do you have a peaceful place—either physical or psychological—for retreat and renewal?

___ How's your work? Are you prospecting? Do you have enough clients? Are you doing the work you want to be doing?

___ How's your financial outlook? Do you know how much you need each month to stay even? Is your income changing for some reason, and if so, why?

___ How's your schedule? Are you always on time? Usually late? Making excuses? Do you feel you need more hours in the day?

 

thumbs up manThe next step is to start from the heart as you begin to build a reserve. Whatever order you gave those six areas, you must begin the rebuilding process with your self. All the time and money in the world isn’t going to help if you are a physical or emotional wreck; conversely, the more robust your physical, spiritual and emotional life, the better your work, finances and schedule will be! Guaranteed. Here are some things you can do, starting immediately, to create reserve in your life:

  • Take time. On next week's calendar, but an X through half of one work day—the entire morning or the entire afternoon. That’s your time. No work, no clients, no "emergencies"—just you doing something you enjoy, even if it's nothing! Take a half day the following week and after that, take a full day every single week. No excuses.
  • couple dancingGive yourself an attitude adjustment. Leave the gloom room. Negativity is contagious and there's way too much of it going around. Just say no to complaining, blaming, and excuses. Focus on what's going right and start building positivity from there. Practice smiling. Find something to laugh about.
  • Move around. When we're stressed in any area of our life, exercise is usually the first sacrifice. Reclaim it. Start small: 10 minutes a day. Then 10 minutes twice a day. Multi-task: walk to the post office; ride your bike to the pharmacy; jog or swim or hike or dance or do yoga with a loved one.
  • Ask for help. It’s okay to ask for help. Friends, family, spiritual leaders, coaches and counselors will listen and may have fabulous ideas to share with you. And don't forget the skill you hire—the tech wizard, the assistant—who will create huge reserves of time for you by doing things you do inefficiently or just plain dislike.
  • Man and womanDivide tasks into smaller pieces. It's easy to be overwhelmed by the magnitude of our problems. Think of your debt in $25 increments (mail one now) instead of in thousands; turn your back on the mess and deal with one file; take one tiny step toward the solution to a nagging problem.
  • Discover abundance. Set your alarm five minutes earlier. Give two heartfelt compliments every day. Stop saving your favorite shoes or shirt or jacket: put it on now. Most important: do something for someone who's worse off than you.man woman umbrella

These actions, insignificant as they may seem, can actually turn your life around and help you create not only a small reserve, but tremendous abundance. The smallest measure of a good thing—health, success, happiness, balance—attracts more of the same: the more you have, the more you get.

Now go do some little thing to start the ball rolling.

 

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

4 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 20 2008 02:41PM

Seven Keys to Survival for Today's Reality

 

Fancy KeyI talked with an agent the other day who was excited to tell me that her business is flourishing, that this year is one of her best ever. How is she doing it? Mental toughness, knowledge of the industry, and always doing the basics. She knows, and practices the seven key steps to surviving and thriving in this market.

To be ready for everything, to benefit from the worst markets as well as from the best, start here:

Calendar PageThe first key is to create a schedule. It should encompass your whole life, factoring in your personal life to create balance. Schedule blocks of time to prospect, qualify buyers and sellers, negotiate contracts, return phone calls, make listing presentations, and show property. Be sure to include time off so you can stay focused and sharp when you’re working. During that time, don’t answer phone or make business calls. And each week, your schedule should include two days off.

Coffee Cups in HandsThe second key is to prospect daily. You get to pick your prospecting method, but you must do something daily to bring in the business. You can prospect on the phone or in person. You can prospect expireds, FSBOs, make cold calls, or ask for referrals from your past clients. The list is limited only by your imagination. The truth is, if you are not spending a minimum of one hour everyday prospecting for new business, you will eventually have difficulty reaching your goals.

SurgeonThe third key is to qualify your potential clients. This means taking the time to make sure that potential clients are truly motivated—both financially and emotionally.. It may help to think of yourself as a doctor with a specialty. People come to you for treatment, but you can ethically treat only those whose condition falls within your specialty; everyone else gets referred elsewhere. As a real estate agent, you can specialize exclusively in qualified clients. Learn to ask questions, qualify every lead, and practice being direct. You are in control.

The fourth key is to understand your business. Look at how you’re spending your time. What are your top four income-producing activities? Which of them is generating the most income? If you’re spending half of your time sitting behind the computer, but only generating ten percent of your income from those efforts, maybe it’s time to recalculate your schedule. Understanding your business means knowing—and being able to describe—what you do, the benefits of your services, and where your income is coming from. If you can’t do those things, you probably aren’t earning to capacity.

The fifth key is to develop a philosophy. You may think of it as a mission statement, or ethical guidelines, or your specialty. Perhaps it’s all three. But whatever you call it, you need to define your segment of the market. What’s unique about you and your service? What separates you from everyone else who wants the same slice of the pie? Just like qualifying your clients and understanding your business, defining your philosophy helps to confirm that your business is on track.

Men talkingYoung WomanThe sixth key is attitude. Someone I know recently told me that she had “fired” one of her friends because she realized that this person had turned into a chronic complainer. As a person and as a sales professional, you need to give yourself a regular attitude check. Do you smile when you greet people? Do you make eye contact? Do you show your appreciation? Do you listen when people talk? Successful business is based on trust, and trust is based in part on people’s perception of your attitude. Make sure you’re sending the right message.

The seventh key is attraction. Does it seem like some people have all the “luck”? Well, guess what? Those people are Incredibly Attractive—and we’re not talking about physical glamour. The idea of attraction is based on the principle that like attracts like. If you’re uncertain what kind of person you are, look around. Who and what have you attracted? Don’t like what you see? You can change it. When your thoughts and feelings are aligned, you are attractive. Attraction has to do with being very present in the here-and-now. It has to do with generosity of spirit and being the very best at what you do. When you focus on doing what you love, you’ll get better and better at it. You’ll have more energy and be able to accomplish more in less time.

If you take the time to pay attention to these seven key steps, your business will improve in all markets, your life will be more balanced, and you’ll find it easier to reach goals you thought impossible. You’re in complete control.

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

 

9 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 17 2008 01:18PM

Chicken Little or FDR…Which are You?

Chicken LittleWe all know the story of Chicken Little who ran around saying the sky was falling, and eventually became Foxy Loxy's lunch. There's no question that the entire global economy is in facing challenges as never before, and that many people are fearful almost to the point of paralysis. When the only thing we can count on is uncertainty, fear starts to rule us and keep us from acting.

Franklin Roosevelt75 years ago things were also looking grim when Franklin Roosevelt gave his first inaugural address. He spoke of the need for action as the way to overcome the paralysis, saying famously, "…let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself."

Last time, I said that we cannot always control what happens. Catastrophes, both natural and man-made, do happen. What we can control is our attitude and how we let those events affect us. It's not in our power to turn back time and make different choices. But we can get to that "So what? Now what?" place where we look at what happened, acknowledge the fear, and choose to draw on our own resources to look ahead and take action.  

What does this mean for real estate agents? What can you do?

Business BreakfastOutdoor Conversation You can reach into your Realtor's® tool box and bring out your best. Call everyone in your sphere of influence, just to keep in touch. Connect through your Internet social circles as well as through your local organizations such as Rotary. Become that beacon of hope and light that everyone is looking for now. Stay active in the community. Everyone else may be hiding, but you can be out there. Real estate is a contact sport, so be out there talking to people.

I just listened to John Tuccillo on a conference call about today's reality. Tuccillo is a former NAR chief economist and author of the book, Click & Close.  He reminded us that it is a good time to buy if you can hold on for the next 5 years. Banks are not in the real estate business; they are in the lending business. There are still banks that are solvent and strong, and they are making loans to buy houses. If buyers can show them the money - have great credit, proof of income, and a good down payment, they are more likely to be able to get a loan. Plus, there is lots of inventory to pick from at great buys. Tuccillo is predicting that by 2010 and 2011 we could have a real estate market that resembles the 2003 market - strong, balanced and possibly going upward. If buyers can hold on beyond 5 years, they can make some real money at 7 to 10 years out.

Gold Key in DoorIt's important to remember – as John Tuccillo pointed out - that the news media speak in generalities, and that all cities and states are not experiencing the same effects. Agents need to look at their specific market as some markets are actually doing well, selling at or just a little below median market. So check your MLS data to understand what's going on in your specific market with days on market, ratio of sales to listing price, etc. Then you'll be able to give consumers the facts so they can make good decisions. Share what the opportunities are today and just be someone that people can talk to who won't moan and groan about how bad things are. When the time comes – as it surely will – people will remember the agent who is out there and being the focal point of their community.

So we have a choice: be paralyzed by fear, or maintain a hopeful attitude and take positive action.

What will you choose today?

 

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

 

3 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 14 2008 08:42PM

Have You Seen That Look?

DeerYou know, the deer-in-the-headlights look? These days you don't have to look very far to see real estate agents who are frozen, paralyzed, and panic-stricken. It's perfectly understandable with the worldwide financial crisis, and an important presidential and congressional election less than a month away. Whether man-made or natural, catastrophes affect people deeply.

Stock chartThe thing is, catastrophes happen. Hurricanes like Katrina and Ike, earthquakes and mudslides, tsunamis, and stock market slides. A catastrophe can be a divorce, an unexpected death, a serious illness, or a business failure. They happen. We cannot control them, we can only choose how to respond.

You've heard it before: Change your thinking, change your life. Right now we’re feeling that the sky really is falling. What we need to do is look down from that sky and backward in our own lives to where catastrophes have happened before, and we survived. Sometimes, we not only survived but came out in a new place that turned out to be better. My own life has a perfect example.

In the dark early morning of January 17, 1994, the massive Northridge earthquake literally threw me out of my bed so hard that I hit the ceiling. It split my house open and destroyed life as I knew it. We were fortunate we had no injuries, yet everything was gone in a few minutes of earth-shattering natural disaster. That's the day I cried, "Uncle!" and my career as a real estate agent in California ended.

Leaves in snowYet within 30 days my whole life changed for the better. With the house unliveable, I moved to a new town, and created a real estate coaching program that was the basis of this career I love. I was forced by catastrophe to let go and say, "I don't want to do what I've been doing, and I don't know what's on the horizon, but I'll find my answer." And I did.

Change happens and it's not always comfortable. In fact, I don't know anyone who likes change other than a wet baby! There are changes, like the cyclical changes of the seasons, that we accept and adjust to by changing our wardrobes to match the weather. And there are structural changes like the use of computers, the Internet, and multi-function phones. You can say "What the heck is this?!" and reject technology, or you can embrace it. But like it or not, technology has changed how we do just about everything.

When the change is catastrophic – an earthquake, a market meltdown, a life-threatening disease – you also have choices. You can resist the change and watch helplessly as everything around you seems to crumble. Or you can recognize the change, accept it as something you cannot control, and find a way to work with it to improve your life and your business.

Now I'm not some Pollyanna singing, "Just let a smile be your umbrella." Of course you will feel worried, stressed, and powerless. What I'm saying is that you probably have an example somewhere in your life where you have survived another catastrophe and have come out the other side. Look back at your life and at changes in the past, remember how you felt powerless when the change happened, and that you didn't like what was happening. But somehow you got to that place of "So what? Now what?" and things did get better eventually. 

Randy PauschEven the most horrendous events, like that earthquake in 1994, or hurricanes, have some positive outcomes. Building regulations improve, better evacuation procedures are developed, people take warnings seriously and act on them. I'm not saying there isn't a devastating human toll; I'm only saying that we need to hold on to the perspective that we learn and improve from even the worst events.

We see the best come out in people during these times, too. Randy Pausch, the professor and author of "The Last Lecture," (pictured at left) had a grim prognosis but managed to leave great gifts for his wife, his children, and the world. He didn't say, "Oh, dear!" and crawl into a corner. He said, "So what? Now what am I going to do about it?" and created a legacy of hope.

Randy took the tools he had – wisdom and words – and created some good out of a desperate situation.  We can do the same thing. We don't have to like what's going on, but here it is, and we have to find a way to "So what? Now what?"

So here we are…now what will you do? Next time, some thoughts about what real estate agents can do when the whole world seems to be turned upside down.

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
Reserve your seat today!

5 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 11 2008 03:34PM

Victim or Victor? The Choice is Up to You

 

Victim attitudeIs there anyone who likes being around a "Victim?" It's certainly not an appealing personality trait. And yet, in a down-turning market, you'd think that Victim was the name of a hot new perfume; everywhere you turn, you get a whiff of it.

You know the clues: the "poor me" stories, the blaming, the counting and recounting of bad things that have happened to the speaker, the anticipation of problems to come. And you know the effect it has on listeners: the glazed eyes, the wandering mind, the rising desire to take the speaker by the shoulders and give him or her a good shake!

Like other negative attitudes, victim is toxic, contagious (your children are especially vulnerable), and powerfully attractive. Unfortunately, what it does attract is not sympathy or cooperation or help, but other victims and those who prey on them. You've heard that old expression about misery loves company? It's just the attraction principle at work!

Victims are passive. Things happen to them. Sometimes their passiveness is compounded by a victim mind-set and decision-making that include words or notions like, "that will never happen," "“no one ever," "I’m no good at," or "why bother?" Does this sound like something to avoid? Good – it is!

The fastest way to stop being a victim is to take action. You can wait for the phone to ring, or you can pick it up and dial. You can pray to win the lottery, or you can make a realistic budget and start dealing with your debt. You can cast a jealous eye on another agent's income, or you can get busy prospecting. You can be passive or you can cause something to happen.

Taking off the Victim label also means taking responsibility for yourself, your life, your business, and your attitudes. It means you can't blame your parents, your ex, your clients, or your astrological sign. Everybody—even that agent you think "has it made"—has blameworthy problems. Getting out of the victim mode means turning the focus onto action instead of excuses.

Goals listThe biggest hurdle in your anti-victim campaign may be allowing yourself to recognize that you already have everything you need to make a change. You don't have to go out and get a life makeover: you've got the tools, the skills, and the knowledge at your fingertips. All you need is to do something (almost anything!) different than your usual, boring victim habit. Here’s how:

  • Set a goal. Make it very specific and not too grandiose.
  • Make a list. Write it down—the writing is important, so don't just do this in your head—ten small actions that will get you closer to your goal. Small is the operative word here. Making a phone call is a small action; revamping your entire contact management system so you have everybody's phone numbers at your fingertips is not.
  • ListTweak your attitude. Write down five positive things you can talk about. At least three of them should be upbeat comments or questions you can use to get someone else talking. Of the remaining two, one should be something hopeful that's going on in the world, in the market, or in the neighborhood, and the last one can be something exciting (yes, there really is something exciting and positive if you think about it) about yourself. (An important note here: "Victim" is an entirely egocentric attitude. The world is all about me-me-me. When you start thinking about, caring about, and asking about other people, it becomes very difficult to maintain your grip on your victimhood.)
  • Do one thing. With your refreshing positive attitude, take one of the actions that you've written on your list. No excuses. Just do it. Right now.
  • Woman on PhoneReward yourself. Crossing the item off your list may be enough of a reward, but if you need something more substantial, go look in the mirror and say the following to your reflection: "You are so smart. You are a person of power and influence. Taking control of your attitude and your business is the best thing you’ve done for yourself in a long time. Way to go."
  •  Repeat. Keep making new goals, listing and taking steps toward them, looking for good news to share, and rewarding yourself for your action.

Man reflection ideaThere's one other step that can put your victim-ness into perspective in a hurry: doing something for someone who needs help more than you do. This goes beyond writing a check to a charity. Again, it's about action: opening your heart and putting the spotlight on someone else.

You may be wondering how any of this is going to pay the bills, but I think you might be surprised. When you stop waiting for the world to find you and reward you for being quiet as a mouse, when you start making a little noise (figuratively or literally—laughter is one of the best noises of all), and you start taking responsibility for your life, things are going to change. When you take action, you get results. There’s magic in action.

Let’s get busy!

 

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
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Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
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8 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 08 2008 12:57PM

Are You Outstanding in Your Field, or Just Wandering in the Weeds?

ConfusedHave you ever stopped in the middle of the day and wondered, "What am I doing?" It's not that you don't understand some paperwork, or don't recognize your surroundings. But a feeling comes over you that where you are, and what you are doing in life, is not bringing the rewards and satisfaction you want.

That's your wake-up call that it may be time to step back and evaluate how you are running your business. Start with these two questions:

  • Do you accept every client who comes your way?
  • Do you take every listing you can get no matter what or where it is?

If you answer "Of course!" to either or both, you may soon find yourself wandering in that "What am I doing?" haze. Because your best work will always be done when you are associated with people you like, and when you are doing what you do best.

Lost in jungleWhen you take the time to identify your ideal customer – and avoid working with those who don't fit that model – you are much more likely to be both fulfilled and successful. I once worked with an agent who had a toxic seller. Through the coaching process he realized it was his fear of lack of business (and money) that caused him to lower his standards so that he ended up with the seller from hell. Knowing that, he was able to make meaningful changes.

 

Another time I worked with someone who lowered his standards to do a favor on a referral and took a listing from a client he knew was not cooperative. He took the listing because he feared losing that referral resource, but it was such a nightmare that the relationship now has bad blood.  It would have been better to tell the referral source, "Thank you, but no thank you."  He would has saved his credibility and self-respect. For me personally, all of my business is through word of mouth. I'm clear on who my ideal clients are, and I work only with them. 

Woman with trophyWhen you know what your niche is, and cultivate that niche for now and the future, you will be moving your business to where it best serves both you and your clients. As you separate yourself from your competitors, you become memorable. When you let people know you and like you, the barriers come down.

Next time you have doubts about taking a listing, or working with a potential client, listen to your inner voice. Ask yourself if this is in your niche, if this the kind of person you want to work with. Then listen to the answers, and make the choice that's right for you.

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
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7 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 05 2008 07:38PM

Boundaries: Build a Fence to Help You Grow

Building your referrals business starts with priming the pump and finding ways to build relationships. As you reach out to people, though, stay mindful of protecting your own boundaries.

PorcupineThat sounds like I'm telling you to be a cuddly porcupine, doesn't it? But while you're building trust and relationships, it can be easy to give so much, or be so willing to help, that you end up doing things that are not right for you. Part of building a successful business is knowing and playing to your own particular strengths.

Everyone has a niche – that place where you function best, where your interests coincide with work that brings fulfillment and reward. Maybe you're terrific with buyers and love helping them find just the right home. Listing isn't your thing, though you can do it, of course. Great! Recognize where your strength is and use it in your business. Start networking with agents who don't like to work with buyers and build mutual referral relationships that benefit you, the other agent, and especially the clients. 

Phone InterruptionThat's what I mean by creating a boundary. You could take those listings, but you wouldn't enjoy the work as much. You might not even do the best for those clients. And you likely would find yourself resenting the time spent doing something you don't enjoy. But if you know where your boundaries are and build your business in your own "sweet spot," you'll have business that you enjoy more and do better.

You also need boundaries around your time. We naturally want to help others and sometimes find it hard to say "No." We allow ourselves to be interrupted by phone calls or those "Do you have a minute?" requests that turn into hours. People expect to leave messages these days, so let voice mail do its job. For in-person interruptions, practice saying, "Actually, I'm in the middle of something right now. Can we schedule some time later?" Obviously, you take important calls and respond when there really is a need for immediate action.

CheetahThe other boundary you need to stake out is private time to keep yourself healthy and able to do your best. Most people can run at high speed and maximum intensity for a short time. But if we try to keep up an extreme pace, without the right amount of rest and refueling, most of us will lose our edge, make bad decisions, even become ill. We should take a lesson from the cheetah. Earth's fastest land animals can sprint up to 70 miles per hour, but only for a short distance. Then they stop, rest, feed, and sleep. You deserve to take care of yourself as well so that you feel good and have the energy for your sprint.

Boundaries benefit you, your family, and your clients. My boundaries help me stay in joy, and keep me from feeling – and being – cantankerous. And that's good for everyone around me!

Coach Patti

Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
Helping You Through Self-Made Limitations!
 

Take control of your Life and Business, and create extraordinary results.
Join a select group of real estate professionals at
Coach Patti's Annual Jump Start Workshop
, November 14-16, 2008
With special guest speaker, Floyd Wickman.
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6 commentsCoach Patti Kouri • October 02 2008 08:58AM